Andrew Bontz - My Better After Divorce Blueprint

Today's episode is a solocast where I document the steps I took in the first year after my divorce and what resources I used to turn my life around.

Topics I discuss:

• Stuck in self-fulling stories 
• The internal dialogue that fed my victim mentality
• Sought external validation seeking stories that positioned me as the victim and her as the villain
• My competitive nature worked against me.  I needed to win.  She needed to lose.
• My ego and unhealthy bruised bravado caused me to act childish  
• Fear of being alone allowed me to sacrifice who I was.  
• I had a fear of being accepted.
• Tried to be the man someone else wanted me to be and not the man I know I am

• I was aware of what I was doing
• I took ownership of my part 
• Told myself different stories
• Surrounded me with healthy friends outside of the relationship that wasn’t jaded
• Lived each day in gratitude
• Built my confidence with mental and physical fitness
• Kept promises to me
• Mental - Purposely did things that were uncomfortable
• Cold showers
• Challenge doing something new every day - Daily Stoic
• Gratitude
• 100 Days of waking up before sunrise and journaling
• 100 Days of working out in a row for at least 7 minutes
• Started A Tiktok Channel
• Practiced moments of being my authentic self and risking the fear of judgment or ridicule
• Practiced Stoicism
• The Miracle Morning
• Focused on Boosting My Testosterone
• Acupuncture
• Slow Carb Diet - the 4-Hour Body
• Supplementation
• Spending time in nature
• Consumed Ownership type messaging
• Extreme Ownership
• Can’t Hurt Me
• Crucial Conversations
• Radical Candor
• MFCEO - Andy Frisella
• You Are A Badass - Jen Sincero
• Mindset The New Pschology of Success - Carol Dweck
• Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself - Joe Dispenza
• F**k Your Feelings - Ryan Munsey
• The Alter Ego Effect
• The Four Agreements
• Be impeccable with your word
• Don’t Take anything personally
• Don’t Make Assumptions
• Always Do Your Best
• Focused on embracing an Alpha Mindset
• Courage, Ownership, Action, Boldness, Authentic, Kind, Honest
• The Daily Stoic
• Marcus Aurilias Meditations
• The Rational Male
• No More Mr. Nice Guy
• Dating Essentials for men
• 30 rules
• How to be a 3% Man

Pillars of Resisting Beta:

• Discipline
• Delaying of gratification
• Acceptance of responsibility
• Dedication to truth
• Balancing?
• Embracing discomfort
• Intentionality
• Following a process, w/o worrying about the results
• Sharing the adventures of becoming a better man

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